Betteanne Camagna: Unschooling, Anti-War, and Peaceful Parent since the 1980s

Please enjoy my recent conversation with Betteanne Camagna. Herein we discussed how she became an unschooling and peaceful parent, attachment parenting, being an unschooling pioneer, learning and living are inseparable, public school is not the real world, just get out of their way, authoritative parenting, appeal to authority, making hygiene fun, respecting and trusting one’s children, children have self-ownership, letting children play, learning through play, deschooling oneself, unschooled entrepreneurs, joyfully rejoicing, living in the future vs. living in the present, an attitude of gratitude, corporal punishment, being in tune with one’s children, spanking euphemism, questioning authority, paving the unschooling way, legality is diametrically opposed to morality, no chores, helping voluntarily, doing things out of joy, poor literacy and grammar of high school graduates, mixed dominance, recommended books, relevancy of college/university, tiny house movement, debt is economic slavery, stay out debt, recommended websites, love is our resistance, love conquers all and much more!

 

To trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves…and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted.

John Holt

 

 

 

 

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Jeff Till: 54 Homeschooling Arguments Answered, The Complete Case

Please enjoy my recent conversation with Jeff Till. Herein we discussed how he became a Voluntaryist, classified like a number, treated like a subject, societal sadism, seen vs. unseen, deschooling oneself, exposing the gun in the room, Taoism, oldest libertarian/Voluntaryist philosophy, explaining unschooling/homeschooling gently, broken window fallacy, exiting the Matrix, opportunity costs, socialization problem, obedience to authority, pro-government messages in cartoons and childhood literature, a la carte government school, unschoolers, homeschoolers, and Voluntaryists are generally well read, carbon copy of one’s parents, corporal punishment, moral/intellectual advancement of the species, question everything, focusing on the path rather than the goal, kindness is revolutionary, homework robs family time, learning by mimicry, blame the institution of “government school” not teachers, minimum wage skills after 12 years of indoctrination, homeschoolers/unschoolers want to work in the private sector and government school kids want to work for government and much more!

 

Instead of raising children who turn out okay despite their childhood, let’s raise children who turn out extraordinary because of their childhood.

L.R. Knost, Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages

 

 

 

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Peaceful Parenting Breaks the Cycle of Violence

As a parent our first duty is to shield our children from overt injury as best we can without being over-bearing and smothering. I wouldn’t let my toddler play in a street with passing cars or play with knives. However I will not spank them for doing so. The fact that they do such things is more the parent’s fault than the child’s fault. Inflicting artificial pain only teaches them to use violence to solve their problems. If they are too young to reason, spanking them makes no sense as they cannot yet determine cause and effect. If they are old enough to reason then spanking is lazy parenting as it is resorting to violence when reasoning and calmly explaining things would be much more effective. Indeed how do you expect your child to begin reasoning if you demonstrate your lack of reasoning with them?

End The Cycle of Violence

 

 

It is also not necessary and quite counter-productive to spank or yell at one’s child after they have fallen, scraped themselves, or otherwise hurt themselves. They have already felt the natural consequences of their actions i.e. pain. Adding additional artificial pain on top of that will not further solidify this lesson. On the contrary it will only teach them to not run to you for comfort in these moments of pain for you are teaching them that it will be conspicuously absent when they do. If they cannot run to you for comfort and reassurance then who can they run to? This is the origin of social anxiety and awkwardness to show affection or weakness. Embody the loving, caring, patient, and understanding human being you wish them to become!

Abusive Parents vs. The State

 

 

There is also ample research that indicates corporal punishment lowers IQ and increases the likelihood of true crime and incarceration later in life. Violence only begets more violence. As peaceful parents we must break the cycle of violence! Propagating harmful practices because they have always been done is to employ the spinal cord and base reptilian brain instead of the neofrontal cortex that has been the proud inheritance of our ancestors. Always strive to improve on the societal and cultural mistakes of the past. Our grandchildren will be most grateful for our efforts.

Teach Non-Aggression and Self-Ownership

 

 

A child whose life is full of the threat and fear of punishment is locked into babyhood. There is no way for him to grow up, to learn to take responsibility for his life and acts. Most important of all, we should not assume that having to yield to the threat of our superior force is good for the child’s character. It is never good for anyone’s character.

John Holt

 

 

 

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