We must be civil and courteous to everyone we meet. If the sentiment is not reciprocated, respectfully retreat, no argument or hostility is required. There is no shame in accepting some people to be incompatible with one’s nature. We all discriminate with who we choose to spend the valuable finite amount of time we have on Earth. This is at the direct expense of other people. There is no time for insults, shaming, and degradation. Spend your precious time with only those who inspire, motivate, and uplift you. In helping each other we become stronger. The rising tide raises all boats.
The core idea behind this program is to explore the crazy idea of treating our children like human beings instead of obedient property. To understand this concept it is our goal to help shed light on how to the importance of teaching kids how to reason, peaceful parenting, attachment parenting, through the ideas of self ownership and nonaggression!
In this pilot episode we introduce ourselves, explain where we are coming from, and help guide you through the rabbit hole of wonder that is often fundamentally different from the idea of teaching authority and obedience but with the same goal of preparing our children to be more than order takers and order followers.
What makes the ‘revolutionary’ concepts of self-ownership, property rights, and nonaggression so important to teach our children? How could these ideas help you and your children?
How much of a difference will explaining the purpose of acting a specific way will make when talking to children? Employing reasoning with children, even if they are not quite able to understand everything all at once or even in the same day will help develop their cognitive abilities.
Telling your children ‘because I said so’ is like a precursor to hearing ‘obey because it’s the law’ when they are an adult. Context and clarity in communication and action is important to the development of critical thinking skills. These skills can be learned through as simple a task of self-responsibility as cutting one’s hair.
An underlying goal is to ensure that our children are prepared to step foot into a world where freedom of choice is the status quo, not freedom of pre-selection. Respecting the child in the moment will help them in the future by giving them the experience to understand the difference between demanded respect with undertones of coercion and voluntary respect to create trust, loyalty, and positive reputations.
Topics discussed: background, Stefan Molyneux, The Facts About Spanking, authoritarian parenting is exhausting, comfort with knives and fire, treating kids with respect, belief in authority, apologize to your kids if you have wronged them, child haircut stories, respect self ownership, understanding the consequences of decisions, not having all the answers, teaching independent thinking, ear piercing infants, circumcision, blaming one’s parents for their mistakes, rise of the digital age, 50 Real Differences Between Men and Women, college/university irrelevancy, Joel Salatin from Polyface Farm and more!
One of the greatest dangers of any thinking person is to supplant one’s deductive reasoning capabilities for the judgment of one in a position of authority. While I certainly do recognize that some are masters in their craft and should rightly be considered authority figures in their field, this is a far cry from abdicating one’s sense of morality and reason to another who would claim to rightfully dominate and subjugate.
People are imperfect and fallible. There is never sufficient reason to forsake your powers of reason. This would betray the very kernel of what it means to be a human being. This would be transform you into the shadow of a human being. Human beings are not built to blindly and unquestioningly obey orders. That is what machines were created for. A healthy skepticism for anyone who claims the moral right to rule is requisite for a just and civilized society.
One of the most important lessons for a child to learn is that of deferral of gratification. It is no achievement to want pleasure and to immediately seek it out until satisfied. This hedonistic strategy is demonstrated by every beast in existence. What defines a human being is the ability to recognize desire and reject immediate gratification with the lofty goal that investment, patience, or work will produce something with a greater reward. This is one of the greatest lessons a child can learn.
It is not consumption that grows an economy but rather savings and investment. If consumption were key than destruction would be a net positive, but this is folly as the broken window fallacy clearly illustrates. War is not good for the economy. War is merely mass murder. It is the creation of wealth by intrepid and risk taking entrepreneurs that is the essence of progress. Savings and investment is the deferral of gratification applied to economics and business. It is the hallmark of a truly civilized society. It is the demonstration that we are not merely beasts with opposable thumbs who walk upright, but human beings with powerful minds capable of solving complex problems.
We were all born curious and inquisitive. We emerged, as infants, equipped with a wondrous fascination with the environment around us. The extent of our freedom to explore determined the profundity of the knowledge acquired. When our freedom was obstructed and our interests molded this immediately blunted our innate curiosity with the unknown. The inner splendor of the individual mind cannot be micro-managed without causing significant harm. To be assessed, monitored, measured, and controlled is antithetical to the very quintessence of our being! Freedom is in our blood!