The urge to be accepted by the tribe and to conform to societal norms is powerful. It is this ancient characteristic that has kept humanity alive throughout our most dangerous and treacherous prehistoric past. At those times conforming to the tribe was a matter of life or death as very few people could survive on their own. All this has changed with technological development and the Industrial Age. We are now no longer so weak and dependent on each other. We can work to earn money to purchase the labor of other skilled artisans. We do not have to be 100% self-sufficient. Indeed this is one reason that humanity has been able to lift itself out of poverty.
“If goods do not cross borders, soldiers will.” Frédéric Bastiat
We must be civil and courteous to everyone we meet. If the sentiment is not reciprocated, respectfully retreat, no argument or hostility is required. There is no shame in accepting some people to be incompatible with one’s nature. We all discriminate with who we choose to spend the valuable finite amount of time we have on Earth. This is at the direct expense of other people. There is no time for insults, shaming, and degradation. Spend your precious time with only those who inspire, motivate, and uplift you. In helping each other we become stronger. The rising tide raises all boats.
Role playing games use skill points, experience points, and such to level up playable characters, learning how to communicate is a lot like that. We learn how to interact with others based on what people know while we are children first. We can only learn by social behavior to begin with.
After that we can ask other questions. However, learning how to communicate beyond what we pick up subconsciously seems to be a little more difficult. Words have meaning. And these meanings can be altered or interpreted differently based on a number of different stimuli.
Body language, tone of voice, inflection, word choice, and actual comprehended definition of a word can all affect the perspective of others we communicate with. Most importantly of all of these things is the difference between observation and judgment.
The core idea behind this program is to explore the crazy idea of treating our children like human beings instead of obedient property. To understand this concept it is our goal to help shed light on how to the importance of teaching kids how to reason, peaceful parenting, attachment parenting, through the ideas of self ownership and nonaggression!
In this pilot episode we introduce ourselves, explain where we are coming from, and help guide you through the rabbit hole of wonder that is often fundamentally different from the idea of teaching authority and obedience but with the same goal of preparing our children to be more than order takers and order followers.
What makes the ‘revolutionary’ concepts of self-ownership, property rights, and nonaggression so important to teach our children? How could these ideas help you and your children?
How much of a difference will explaining the purpose of acting a specific way will make when talking to children? Employing reasoning with children, even if they are not quite able to understand everything all at once or even in the same day will help develop their cognitive abilities.
Telling your children ‘because I said so’ is like a precursor to hearing ‘obey because it’s the law’ when they are an adult. Context and clarity in communication and action is important to the development of critical thinking skills. These skills can be learned through as simple a task of self-responsibility as cutting one’s hair.
An underlying goal is to ensure that our children are prepared to step foot into a world where freedom of choice is the status quo, not freedom of pre-selection. Respecting the child in the moment will help them in the future by giving them the experience to understand the difference between demanded respect with undertones of coercion and voluntary respect to create trust, loyalty, and positive reputations.
Topics discussed: background, Stefan Molyneux, The Facts About Spanking, authoritarian parenting is exhausting, comfort with knives and fire, treating kids with respect, belief in authority, apologize to your kids if you have wronged them, child haircut stories, respect self ownership, understanding the consequences of decisions, not having all the answers, teaching independent thinking, ear piercing infants, circumcision, blaming one’s parents for their mistakes, rise of the digital age, 50 Real Differences Between Men and Women, college/university irrelevancy, Joel Salatin from Polyface Farm and more!